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Why I Set Up This Channel: I had a difficult childhood. What I didn't realise was, that my childhood would follow me into my adult life. My personal life was a catalogue of disasters. I kept getting myself into toxic and abusive situations. I have been in and out of therapy since I was 17, trying to make sense of my childhood and trying to feel better about myself. It was finally, in my forties, that I met a therapist who explained why I kept getting myself into damaging situations. At last, I had an awareness of what I was doing because I didn't know I was recreating the toxic patterns I learned in my childhood. Doing this is a subconscious process and if this therapist hadn't explained all this to me, I would still be getting myself into dysfunctional dynamics. If any of this sounds familiar to you, then this channel may help you. I want to help you stop repeating unhealthy patterns you learned in your childhood. The great news is that I want you to know that it is possible to heal from an abusive childhood. You just need the will to do this and the correct information and guidance. I am at last, in a place, where my childhood does not control me anymore and I like myself. I was a lost cause, so, if can do this, so can you.

What are The 6 Bad Messages? One day I sat down and I made myself write down what I really thought about myself. I was shocked by what I saw. This is what I wrote:

1) I am not enough 2) I am responsible for others

3) I must not trust my feelings and my instincts 4) I am bad and I am wrong

5) I am alone, nobody loves me 6) I must be perfect or nobody will love me

These are the messages my inner critical voice was constantly replaying to me. I learned to believe these messages about myself in my childhood. On this channel, I focus on explaining what I now call are The 6 Bad Messages we take from a toxic childhood. Do you feed yourself Bad Messages about yourself? Can you try and write them down? Are they similar to what I wrote about myself?

Nip and Flip: On this channel, I show you how to stop feeding yourself these 6 Bad Messages using what worked for me. I named it the Nip and Flip method.

What are Tales of Repetition Compulsion? If we had a difficult childhood, it is very likely that we will repeat toxic patterns we learnt in our childhoods through a psychological process called Repetition Compulsion. In order to make this concept easy to understand and relatable, I give examples, or Tales, of how Repetition Compulsion invades every area of our lives. I use 8 Life Categories to show this and they are: Work/Career, Family Roles, Finances, Relationships, Health/Self-Care, Learning/Achievements, Personal Goals, and Social/Community Interactions. In these Tales, I use two fictional characters, Eva and Jamie.

Who Are The Three Wise Tails? They are my 3 dogs - Petal, Blossie and Dotty. They are a constant support to me. Full of love. They never hurt or betray me. I asked them to take part on my channel as hopefully, they will help support you too. They love to ask you if you want to be a Top Dog or a Cog? Meaning, do you want your toxic childhood to still control you, or do you want to be the one in control of your life?

Me and The Three Wise Tails care about you so much. We 'woof' you!   © Dr. Annette Hunter